'Yoni' is a Sanskrit word for womb. Yoni massage can help with physical and psychological conditions such as vaginismus, where the body tenses up involuntarily making intercourse painful and difficult. It is a healing form of bodywork that will build your sensual confidence and knowledge of how your body works. It is an intimate act to do with a partner, as the idea is to maintain eye contact and vocalise what you are feeling as the massage progresses.
About Yoni Massage
The g-spot is a ridged, slightly bumpy area around 2” along the vaginal wall. Like the prostate gland, it is where a woman stores any tension or trauma. Massaging it can help you overcome any negative feelings and anxiety that you may be holding about your sensuality. The techniques listed below explain how to massage it. It is easier to find if you (or your partner) are fully aroused. Use a good quality organic lubricant such as Yes or Starglide for external and internal massage.
How to Do Yoni Massage
Deborah Sundahl is a workshop facilitator and expert in female sensuality. She suggests the following technique for healing yoni massage: -
- Receiver: The aim of the massage is exploration and healing rather than stimulation and orgasm. Keep an open mind and concentrate on your breathing to help circulate energy in the body. Start with a relaxing bath and a full body massage to help you to relax. It is a good idea to empty your bladder first as stimulating the g-spot can make you feel like you need to urinate.
- Try to maintain eye contact with your partner throughout the massage. The aim is to open yourself to receiving pleasure and to feedback to your partner what is happening for you.
- Giver: When she is sufficiently aroused from the external massage you can start the internal massage. Ask her to guide you and tell you what feels good.
- Use your index finger to enter the vagina and crook it upwards so that the pad of your finger touches the vaginal wall. The g-spot is a ridged, bumpy area around 2” along the wall, towards the cervix. The aim is to awaken the area by applying steady, consistent pressure. The g-spot will engorge with blood as it becomes aroused so it is easier to find. Once you have found the ridge slowly circle it with your finger keeping an eye on your partner’s reaction. Does any particular area or stroke cause pain? Ask her how it feels. Numb or painful areas are energy blocks that need to be removed and you can do this by applying steady pressure as she expresses her feelings. If a particular area feels hot it is a sign that energy is moving to shift any blocks.
- When you are both ready end the massage by gently withdrawing your fingers and holding externally with one hand. The goal is to experience intimate touch and explore what this brings up for you both emotionally. Finish with plenty of cuddles.
- For those who want to reciprocate, lingam massage is male intimate massage. It can help with orgasm and ejaculation problems, and increase a man's enjoyment of touch.
How to Find a Massage Therapist
This type of massage is practised in Tantric therapy. If you want to find a professional bodyworker explore Tantric workshops in your area and ask the facilitators for teacher recommendations. Joseph Kramer runs the New School of Erotic Touch, which offers online classes. In the UK, Kavida Rei is a Tantric bodyworker offering Integrated Healing Therapy, in London and Hertfordshire, which includes yoni healing. You can also do courses and experience the massage via the London Tantric Temple.
Yoni massage is an intimate, healing act to do alone or with a partner. It can help you address vaginismus, painful intercourse (dyspareunia), and gain confidence and awareness of your sensuality and how your body responds to touch. There are several excellent books on the topic if you want to read about the philosophy behind it before you start.
Resources
Deborah Sundahl's books (listed on Amazon) explore the subject in greater detail.
Yoni Massage by Michaela Riedl, Destiny Books 2006.
London Tantric Temple: tantricmassagelondon.net/learnyoni
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