How to Reconnect in Your Relationship
Building Stronger Sexual Connections by Loving Yourself
Susie Johnson, a renowned Tantra coach, clinical hypnotherapist and relationship expert, believes sexual disconnection is the slow killer of too many relationships.
“Whenever I meet a women who tells me she’s just ‘not interested in sex’ or that she could ‘take it or leave it’ I know I’m not talking to a women who is not as much ‘sexual dissatisfied’ as she is simply emotionally disconnected.”
Disconnect is when a person becomes unfamiliar with their own sexual needs and wants, as well as the needs and wants of their partners. This creates an emotional cavern in the relationship.
The First Step to Reconnecting
Getting reconnected isn’t as hard as it sounds, though. Making what Johnson calls a mind-body connection can rejoin bodies that have been apart too long.
“While we all know “how the body parts work” many of us have never felt any genuine connection or appreciation for those sexual parts,” says Johnson. “Making this mind-body connection is what leads to sexual appreciation.”
The first step to mind-body connection is to learn to love yourself and your body, and connecting all parts of their parts to their sexuality. The process of learning to love one’s self actually just requires making a decision to do it. “I’ve found that simply 'telling' a woman she needs to love herself is just not enough,” says Johnson.
Connecting with and Loving Yourself
Johnson says that women are “internal warriors,” with constant internal turmoil and emotions. The secret to making sure a woman experiences consistent sexual connections is to remember to make a conscious shift from the head to heart. “The head (the domain of your thoughts) can analyze, theorize, summarize and visualize – but it can’t make an emotional connection. Only your heart has the capability and capacity to do this. So, as you open your heart - you open the way for deeper connections,” says Johnson.
According to Johnson, these connections result in more intense arousal, which is a mental and physical response. When these connections are made, the female is able to easily relax, release, and reconnect with her body.
Practice Reconnecting
Try these experiments to reconnect with yourself and your partner:
- Don’t analyze the moment. Practice feeling a moment without picking it apart.
- Spend time doing things together as a couple without the pressure of sex.
- Do things to boost self-confidence.
Making a conscious effort to reconnect with one’s self and partner will not only make the relationship closer, but will make the sex red hot.
